Monday, October 12, 2015

"OMG! Can I Pet Your Dog?!" Well...No, Actually. You Can't.

Hey, everyone!

It's #ConfessionTime today! :p I may be doing more of these dog-related confessions, so keep an eye out!

I have a really cute dog. This is a fact. I can not go anywhere with Nola without someone saying something along the lines of "awww, she's so cute!", and asking to pet her . While I'm always proud as a peacock when she's complimented, I adamantly refuse to let people pet her.

"Ooooh," You may be thinking. "Nola must have a reactivity issue we aren't familiar with!" 

She doesn't. While she's aloof to the point of total apathy with strangers, she rolls with it when it comes to interacting with people.

The issue isn't with her. It's me. I can't stand people touching my dogs. I can tolerate a lot (actually, my issues have more issues than Vogue, and I'm possessive as fuck, but that's beside the point), but having people petting my dogs drives me up the wall. It bothers me to no end! I see someone's grubby hands reach out to stroke my dog's gleaming coat, and my teeth grit so hard it hurts. It's not just strangers, either: family bothers me, too! In fact, I can only think of 6 people that I'm okay with touching my dogs.
Maybe that's why I've chosen aloof and/or reserved dog breeds. :p

Can't touch this!

And for those people that don't ask before reaching out to fondle my dog?

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So that's one of my many dog confessions! What's one of yours? Please tell me I'm not the only one with this...ah, quirk. ;)

- Dachshund Mommy


  1. This made me laugh :) People usually ask AS they are already petting!! People have tried to reach in my car to try and pet Cocoa!! It makes me so mad for numerous reasons one being she may bite them!!

  2. Hahaha!
    I let everyone pet the pugs. They are so friendly anyway. People immediately want to pet them and play with them. They eat it up. Lol you should see them push each other out of the way for attention.

  3. I is very particular about WHO I allows to pet me...its catch me if you can when I don't wants touching, no matter what Mum says!
    Loves and licky kisses
    Princess Leah xxx

  4. :) YES!!! Glad I'm not alone! I've been known to yell at a screaming herd of children who come racing to my dogs in an effort to pet them. Drives me insane.

  5. My little guy has two reactions - tail wagging belly up pets (full submission very rare only for family/close friends) or hide behind my legs. He has strong opinions about strangers. I'm okay with his thoughts especially because he's usually right. Hide from the creeps! He usually goes behind me first and then if I say it's okay he will peak around and come over. If they come up and don't ask to pet him first (I usually say no! especially to kids) then I instantly pick him up and walk away from the people. I hate it when they do that.

  6. YES!

    I used to love it when people asked to pet my dogs when the aussies were young. Six years later, I'm so over it. Now I catch myself automatically saying no even when I meant to say yes -- no has become my default setting. I'm happy with that, because I would rather accidentally say no when I mean yes than accidentally say yes when I mean no.

    Yesterday, my youngest met my extended family for the first time. My aunt is not dog-savvy but is trying to convince my uncle to get another dog. My uncle does not want a second dog at ALL. After a few minutes of trying to pet Indi awkwardly, my aunt turned to her husband and said, "Well, why don't you take this dog for a walk for a little while and see if you like him?" in complete seriousness.

    And I stared at her like she had taken a shit on the dining room table at Thanksgiving, because it was that level of not-okay. She was acting like it was just the most normal thing in the world to tell someone to walk someone else's dog. That would be uncomfortable and weird even if she *had* asked my permission ahead of time (and she hadn't).

    I don't know if she misunderstood. It's possible that she thought Indi was one of my fosters and that he was available. I think that's pretty unlikely, but possible. Even if he was a foster, that was not the way to approach talking about hanging out with him. It was super inappropriate. I would be more considerate than that when asking if I could borrow her PENCIL. My dog is not an accessory to be passed around like it's show-and-tell.

  7. I was really proud of Teddy recent. I was sitting in a field at a local event, Teddy sat beside me. A man let his toddler run towards us, and the child ran up and started petting Teddy. Teddy just sat there. Teddy doesn't mind people petting him, and I don't mind as long as they ask, but he can be a bit unpredictable too. Small child could be herded, you know. He was a good boy, though. I love my Teddy. :)

  8. I agree. Some people don't think, nor care.

  9. I understand what you mean. When I'm out on a walk with one of my dogs it is US time and I don't like the interruption or the feeling of obligation that just because I have a dog that gives you the right to come up to me and pet them. This turns me off. If I invite someone into my home and they are friends, then I'm OK with that. But not on a walk... Leave me alone!

  10. Cardigan Corgis are quite a crowd magnet so out in public way too many people want to touch them. While I don't mind people touching my dogs, I only allow it if my dogs are OK with it. Wilson is 99% aloof (reserved with strangers as the standard calls for), so he truly prefers NOT to be touched by anyone but John or me. He tolerates it if he must. Jimmy, on the other hand, loves people, esp. men (how weird is that?), and leans into people's legs for more. But go someplace with lots of people, and both boys get very tired of being touched. Most people ask, but after an hour or so I start saying no so my dogs don't have to put up with it any longer.

  11. I am so with you on this, not to mention Phoenix is afraid of people reaching towards her. Honestly, with everyone being so sue happy and on a mission to get dogs euthanized, I don't think this is a bad way to be. I rarely ever let people interact with my dogs and only if my dogs want to. Zoe is very picky about her human friends (and lately dog friends, sigh...) and sometimes she will really want to meet someone and other times she doesn't want anyone touching her. So I just go with it but most of the time it's hands off my dog!

  12. I only trust people to touch my dog that I know are GOOD with dogs. Dachshunds are opinionated and I don't want anyone getting handsy if my dogs decide they'd prefer to walk away.

  13. Okays, I agree with you! But, see Ruby has a built-in defense for this...SLOBBER! hehehehehe Yes, you can pet her, if you don't mind her slobbering on you! It never one ever does...☺ (okay, so the peeps at the vet do, but you can help that.)
    Slobber on my furiends! ☺
    Ruby ♥

  14. I totally get that. People carry so many diseases around. They don't understand that dogs have thoughts and feelings. They don't get it. They just want to pet your dog. Our dogs are protective of our house. People want to just come over or drop by and don't understand that the dogs get really worked up which means I get really worked up.

  15. I understand totally why you feel the way you do as our dogs are special to us! I don't mind when people politely ask BEFORE they reach out and when they let the dog smell their hand (preferably their fist) BEFORE touching him/her. I do enjoy letting timid children pet my dogs. I always tell them to touch the dog's ears and feel how soft they are. The look of delight on the child's face is priceless! I've also found Bentley to be especially endearing to children with Down's and wished I had time to do therapy with him. He isn't real keen on the petting, but the ring training has taught him to allow it and he seems to click with special needs children.

  16. I get this. Nothing pisses me off more than a screaming little kid running up to me and one of my dogs. Neeko is typically good with kids, but screaming kids scare her. They scare me, too.

  17. LOL! Well!!! Ya gotta love confessions! hahaha! My confession was posted to my blog the other day too haha! Damn untrainable huskies! LOL!
    ღ husky hugz ღ frum our pack at Love is being owned by a husky!

  18. I'm not huge on the petting thing, especially with Skipper as he switches between being friendly/aloof depending on his nature. Most of the time I have him wear a "Space" button and point it out if people ask to pet him. With Quenya, she is so desperate to be petted by every human that walks the earth, I come across as a total witch to both my dog and the people if I say no (as Quenya wags her tail madly and strains to get closer to the strangers, twirling around in circles under their hands).

    But I like people and am taking steps to have Quenya certified as a therapy dog, so it will never be one of my biggest peeves/quirks.

    It's slightly ridiculous, but my biggest "confession" is how frustrated I get by the sheer number of people that ask if Skipper is a Whippet/Miniature Greyhound/Italian Greyhound and then follow my correction "No, he's a Rat Terrier" with "Is he purebred?" . No, no, he's a mix. That's why I corrected you and told you his actual breed. If he were purebred I would have specified *purebred* Rat Terrier, because, you know, they aren't UKC/AKC recognized, have recorded bloodlines or anything.


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