Hi, all! Dachshund Mommy here. Yes, Rosa, our 8 week old red Standard Poodle, is here! We picked her up (12 hour round trip...fun!) on Thursday. So far, it's going fairly smoothly with Nola and Pike. Nola's laid down the law but for the most part ignores her. Pike's corrected her a few times, mainly when she nips too hard, but is mostly getting along with her, and even played a bit with her yesterday evening.
I will say that Rosa and I are having some problems with bonding, or lack thereof. I was so, so lucky to have a damn near instantaneous bond with both Nola and Pike, although it was - and is - significantly stronger with Nola, as she is my heart dog. With Rosa, that one in a million spark I had/have with Nola and Pike isn't there. And I, as... selfish as it sounds, am upset by that, and admittedly a little freaked out.
In addition to that, I was expecting a different personality than the one Rosa has. I don't believe either the breeder or I am at fault for this little mishap; I think it was just miscommunication on both sides. From what the breeder had told me, I was expecting a temperament similar to Pike's: high energy, easy going, very people focused, a little demanding, in your face, and very loving. What Rosa is is: medium-low energy, very calm, likes people but isn't in your face, very undemanding and unassuming, and independent.
Sounds like the perfect puppy for most people, right? Well, not to me. As my mother pointed out the other day, I genuinely like and enjoy what most people would call "bad dogs". I love the demanding, high energy and high intensity dogs. I love the dogs that challenge me by being smarter or as smart as me. I love the dogs that need a significant amount of training and exercise to be manageable. I love the dogs that stick to you like -for lack of a better term - stink on shit. I love the dogs that are so focused on you and working with you it's a little disconcerting if you aren't used to it. That's how both Nola and Pike are, and I love it. In another owner's hands, they'd be "bad" dogs, but with me they're happy, well behaved and enjoyable.
Please don't take that the wrong way; there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with Rosa herself. This issue is all me. Rosa is such a sweet, easy dog, and I really do like her. I'm just having a bit of trouble adjusting to the fact that what I wanted and what I got are too very different things. I'm working towards getting over that and seeing just what kind of relationship I can form with Rosa. Am I upset? A bit. Disappointed? A bit. BUT, I'm not letting all that negativity get piled up on her, and we're working towards fixing it. She is so sweet, so gentle, so easy. She's genuinely a good dog. It's me with the problems. But tell you something you don't know, eh?
I am happy to report that my outlook on this is much better than it was the first two days after getting her. I literally cried on and off for those two days straight. But now that Rosa's warming up to me a bit more, it's getting easier. We've had several sweet cuddles now, and she loves to be played with. Like I said, we're working on it. Slowly, yes, but surely.
Damn, I sound so whiny in this post, and probably more than a little ungrateful with my pup. I'm really, truly not. This is just harder than I was anticipating, and it's thrown be a loop. I debated even sharing this here, but I strive to always be honest and real with my content, even when it's not all sunshine and roses.
|Doing her job, like the best girl she is.|