Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Roxie Update: A Bittersweet Yet Happy Update

Hey, everyone!



I have a Roxie update for you! A few of you have already seen this on Facebook, but for everyone else, here's what's been going on with Roxanne.




A little recap:

The last two updates were not happy ones. Roxie started to display some seriously concerning personality traits, like high prey drive and the beginnings of dog selectiveness (which can -and often does in bully breeds such as Roxie - turn into full blown dog aggression as the dog matures). In a multi-dog household with small dogs, and with Roxie's young age of 9-12 months old, it was incredibly alarming, to say the very least.
After extensively researching, talking at great length to many responsible and knowledgable bull breed owners, getting opinions from all of you, and seriously stopping to consider what I can and what I was willing to do, I decided that rehoming was the best option for everyone. Crating and rotating was not a long term, fair option for anyone, human or dog. My dogs are 5 years, almost 2 years and 17 months old, with Roxie being 9-12 months. That is well over a decade of crating and rotating if she stayed here, with the constant stress and potential for a slip up that goes along with that setting. I didn't trust any kind of training to completely remove what she was doing, and I wasn't willing to risk it. So, I decided to rehome.


I contacted dozens of no-kill rescues, both all breed and bully specific, all over Florida, and the responses ranged from none to "we're too full". The #1 response was a closed intake to bully breeds. You can't spit in Florida without hitting some kind of bull mix. 95% of dogs in shelters are bullies and their mixes. They're a hard breed to adopt out to begin with, and especially so with the sheer number of these types of dogs in shelters. It's incredibly sad.

After that discouraging attempt, I decided to take matters into my own hands I posted her on several local dog Facebook groups and websites, and went days without any response at all. I was feeling desperate, upset, and very stressed with the crating and rotating situation.
During this time, I continued to to work with Roxie. Basic commands, handling, positive experiences, ect.

Then I received an email from an older gentlemen. He lived around a half hour from me, and had lost his beloved dog at the age of 15 last year. He was finally ready to add a dog back into his life, and Roxie caught his eye. He enjoys hiking and camping, and wanted a dog that was gentle with kids, playful, and sweet. He had several grandkids, which Roxie would love as she adores kids even more than adults. He had experience with large/powerful breeds, and was forthcoming with all information. He had no other pets, and was willing to do both a home check and a trial run. He was understanding about Roxie's past life,

It sounded like the perfect home, and since he was alone this Christmas, we set a home check and trial run for the 23rd. His house had a fully fenced in yard, and was clean and safe. He had no other pets, just as he said, and the house checked out. The man himself was very quiet and mild-mannered, gentle and calm. It was clear in his voice when he spoke about his previous dog how much he adored her, and I felt good with matching him with Roxie.

Roxie was a little hesitant with the situation at first (she'd never been in a house other than mine), but after a few minutes warmed up to his gentle demeanor. He didn't try to rush her into interacting with him, didn't hover over her or push her past her comfort zone. He sat on the couch and waited for her to come to him, which she did. She burrowed up under his legs and laid her head on the couch beside him. It was like she knew he needed a dog in his life, and was prepared to fill the roll. By the end of the visit, Roxie had pretty much made herself at home. I feel like this is a place where she can be the center of someone's world, spoiled and adored and getting all the time. This is what she deserves.
He's agreed to stay in touch, and send photos and updates on her. I think this is a better outcome than I could have hoped for.

I was sent an email update just a day ago on her, in fact. He adores her! She sleeps in bed, and is constantly cuddling. He commented on how sweet she is, and reaffirmed that she fits in perfectly into his life. That's her forever home, just by listening to him speak about her.

Look at that tail. 









I won't lie to you though: this entire situation has been incredibly painful. I cried more on the day she went to her new home than I have all year. Big, ugly, can't-breath-and-pretty-sure-I'm-going-to-puke sobs. So much time, energy, emotion, and money was poured into Roxie, and I absolutely love and adore her. It hurt to not have her after all we've been through. One the drive over my mind kept coming up with stupid and improbable ways to keep her, and leaving her was nearly impossible.

It was the right decision for me, for my other dogs, and especially for Roxie. Doesn't mean it didn't (and doesn't) hurt like a bitch. I miss so much about her, and about a larger dog/another dog in general. It's insane how much impact she had on me in such a short time.

To the very few non-regular followers who've had rude things to say:
Please keep nasty comments to yourself (*cough* that one troll from the decision post *cough*). Until you've put well over $1,000 into a dog that wasn't your own, slowly nursed her back to health, put hours of training and socializing into her, only to watch her go after one of your own and then be forced to make an agonizing decision ....you can't judge the situation with any form of truth or empathy. Keep it to yourself.

To my friends:
I'm so happy Roxie was put into my life. I am grateful beyond expression for all of my blogging friends for cheering on Roxie, for all your support, for your kindness and understanding, and advice on every step of our journey. I could't have done it without you. Thank you.

- Dachshund Mommy


30 comments:

  1. Roxie, best of luck to you on your new journey in life. You've been blessed with a new lease on life given by a wonderful family and now you can blossom to the fullest in your new home. Looking forward to updates as you start your new adventures!

    PawHugs!

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  2. I am so happy you went to the effort to find her the perfect home. You did a wonderful thing, even at great personal pain. Bless you.

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  3. You saved her life and then found her the perfect home. You are an angel.

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  4. Well this just made my whole day. Thank you for sharing the journey with us, and for what it's worth, I think you made miracles happen for Roxie, with the last miracle (a loving forever home) being the best. Shoot, sounds like you made a miracle happen for her new owner too.

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  5. As hard as it was, this was the best decision for all involved. For such a very hard thing, it sounds like the ending is as happy as it could have been. There is no longer and questions or stress about Roxie and your dogs...and she gets to be loved and spoiled beyond question by someone who needs her probably as much as she needs him. You are such a wonderful, amazing person to have done all you did for her.

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  6. We're so glad to see Roxie has landed in a great situation. We can only imagine how difficult this situation was for you and commend you for doing the right thing for everyone.

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  7. I'm so very happy that you were able to find the perfect home for her - she looks so happy. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you - Roxie is so lucky she found you and her new owner sounds wonderful!

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  8. We are so happy what you did for Roxy. You gave her a new life. Hopefully everything will work out in her new home
    Snorts,
    Lily & Edward

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  9. Woo hoo!! I am so happy about her new home! It sounds like the ideal situation for her. I can't imagine how it must have hurt for you to do the hard thing. But once again you did what was best for Roxie. You did so much for her in such a short amount of time, it's not surprising you have a deep connection with her. Rest easy knowing she is in a loving home. Thank you for all you did for her. I hope you continue to get updates.

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  10. Oh! What a perfect ending to a very difficult story!!

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  11. you did a wonderful thing. she got a second chance because of you....and it sounds like her new dad is going to give her a great life. but yeah....letting go sucks

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  12. What a wonderful happy ending. You can see how much Roxie loves her new dad and how spoilt she is going to be.
    I can't even imagine how hard it was to give her up after everything you have done for her and watched her go from that pitiful little dog to full health.
    I hope there is lots of good karma coming your way for all you have done for her, you deserve a medal!
    Lynne x

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  13. This is wonderful news!! Good job finding her a home! Sounds like you made the best decision for your family and her. :-)
    Wags & Kisses from Dante and Ziva!

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  14. You made a beautiful choice and did a great thing!!
    Ignore trolls girl. If they wouldn't say it to your face, they are cowards. F-em. They don't know you or pay your bills therefore irrelevant!! Xxoo

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  15. this sounds to us that this is how it was meant to turn out. the best decision for all - and it looks like Roxie has found the perfect home
    hugs to you for giving her this chance a wonderful life.
    the PugRanch Gang

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  16. You saved Roxie's life and prepared her for a new home. She sounds like she found a home where she's going to get to not just be tolerated as she rotates through the crates but most importantly wanted and needed to complete someone's life.

    Without you stopping and providing the time she needed to heal she wouldn't be ready for this amazing opportunity. You gave both of them an amazing gift and that is something you should focus on. She now has someone who thinks she is the center of the universe and he isn't alone. You could never do that for Roxie, but you could provide her with the time to heal so she could be ready for it when the opportunity came up.

    I am perhaps alone in my opinion, but I'd always rather see a dog in the right placement than see people struggle to make a bad situation work. You already worked to correct Roxie's first owner's cruelty in dumping her by providing her with medical care and time to heal. Then you did the responsible thing when it became clear she couldn't stay and have a healthy life, you found her a home where she could have that experience.

    Please find peace and know that Roxie was blessed to know you.

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  17. That's awesome that Roxie found a great forever home! I hope she continues to do well there and that he sends you regular updates!

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  18. And that's why we love you so much DM! Always ready, willing & able to help. We're so happy to hear this wonderful update on our furend. It does sound like the perfect home for her. We know your heart hurts having to rehome her but under the circumstances it was the right thing to do. We think you're da bomb!

    Hugs,
    Lily Belle & Muffin

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  19. Awe so happy for everyone! I am sure she will have a great life with that gentleman and so nice he will keep in touch so you can see her progress :)

    xoxo,
    Ginger, Matt & Matilda's Mom

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  20. I am sorry it did not work out after all the work and love you put in but I think you created a wonderful dog who will bring someone lots of love and attention. I am just sorry that someone won't be you

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  21. I need a tissue after reading this, maybe a whole box! So happy this worked out for both of you. Little did you know that this gentleman needed her when you picked her up that day! I know you miss her though!

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  22. Oh I am so glad to hear an update on Roxie! I was wondering how her new home turned out. I can only imagine how hard, yet good, this has been for you.
    ღ husky hugz ღ frum our pack at Love is being owned by a husky!

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  23. Such a beautiful ending. You are an amazingly kind soul. I hope he keeps in contact with you about her.

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  24. You have done so well by Roxie! Bailey (above) said it better than I ever could. It's a good though sad ending for you, and a bright new start for Roxie. What an amazing saga this has been!

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  25. What a wonderful "fairy foster mother" you were to Roxie!! We are so glad you found her the perfect home!

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  26. This makes me incredibly happy for Roxie. I know that it was such a difficult decision but look at the joy you were able to give this gentleman and to Roxie. You have major good karma coming your way. ♥ Happy New Year, my friend.

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  27. Do not worry about what the Trolls say...
    You did the right thing for everyone involved. I read Jon Katz blog and he is a firm believer that at times rehoming is the best thing for a dog. You did a great job with her from the very beginning.

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  28. You performed a miracle for Roxie. I can imagine how hard it was to let her go to a new home but it was the perfect thing for her and for your other dogs. I'm so glad you found this home for her!

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  29. This makes me SO happy that Roxie found her forever home and it is absolutely amazing and beautiful all you did for this sweet girl. She was so very lucky to have you in her life and you made all the difference in her world. It is like you are giving her this other gift of being herself. I hope that makes sense. It is cool he will keep in touch because you both meant so much to each other!!

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  30. It sounds like you made the very best decision possible and that Roxie is lucky to have met another person who will love her as much as you did. I hope you'll continue to share her updates!

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